When people have a choice of whom to work with, likability can sometimes matter a little bit more than ability, said Tiziana Casciaro, an associate professor at the University of Toronto's Rotman School of Management, who researches likability in the workplace. 36 These strategies can help:
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You can induce a sense of similarity with almost anybody by finding things you have in common. They may not be apparent right away, so be observant. Great salespeople do this all the time by studying potential customers for bits and pieces of their lives they can relate to.
Like someone and they'll like you right back
38 Flattery (奉承) can convey fondness, but she doesn't recommend using the fake kind, even though it may work. Casciaro said, "Flattery that is completely made up is exhausting and morally blameworthy. " Instead, let a praise come from a real place. 39 For instance, "I really appreciate what you did yesterday.
When you give people praises, it goes a very long way towards their liking you back.
Be a familiar presence
Humans like things that are familiar, so just seeing you around in person makes you more likable to others. "This concept gives a whole new meaning to the idea of face time, Casciaro said. 40 If not, just try to talk to people as much as possible in person during work hours, she advised. You want to maximize rich interactions and cut down on the drier ones, like texts and phone calls. Be sure to be seen.
A. Ask a lot of questions. B. See the positive in a person and express it to him.
C. People like to guess what others think about them. D. What can you do to increase your chances of being liked?
E. Find the common points that link you with another person.
F. It's almost irresistible that we like people who seem to like us.
G. Go to after-work drinks if you have time and you would find the outing enjoyable.